Healing wounds you didn’t know you carried

Hy dear reader! Today’s walk talks are not about the visible issues like parenting, self-growth and the daily fights with self, but it’s about the loss we all had, we never knew, the invisible wounds they gave us and we didnt realized that time, but something from us left there. It sounds so filmy bro… whatever… just focus on the meaning…writer is very emotional today…bear it… (just kidding)

So, some wounds don’t bleed. They don’t leave scars on the skin. They live quietly…maybe in our soul… in the way you guess your worth, or shrink yourself in conversations. These are the wounds you never named, the ones you didn’t even know you carried.

1-Signs you might be carrying them without realizing it

When small things feel big:

You explode over something tiny, but it’s not about now ,it’s an old wound speaking, the reactions time is in present but this reaction was hidden from small things.

The “It’s fine” habit:

You stay quiet to keep the peace because speaking up once felt unsafe. You say it to avoid drama.

Chasing approval

Praise feels like air, without it, you can’t breathe.

Numb instead of feeling

You shut emotions off so they can’t drown you.

Stuck on repeat

You replay old mistakes, wishing you could rewrite them.

Half-trusting

You open up — but never fully, just in case.

Carrying guilt that’s not yours

That “you’re not enough” voice? It doesn’t belong to you.

Hiding your wins

You keep your success small so it feels “safe.”

Loving from a distance

You care deeply, but keep people just far enough not to hurt you.

Familiar hurt

You choose what you know — even when it hurts.

2-Why we carry them

We don’t carry emotional wounds because we want to. We carry them because, at some point, they kept us safe, and being safe is in instinct, we tend to do this again and again to keep us safe. Here is a little detail of why they became part of us.

Wounds that never got a voice

Listen cutee, every one of us had incidents that made us feel insecure, that we don’t wanted to hear but it was indulged on us so hard that no option was left behind and now even though we are grown up, those wounds stayed. But remember keeping them inside and not discussing them won’t heal them by themself. What wasn’t talked about, never healed. The hurt just sat there, shaping how you see yourself and others.

Fear of feeling It all

Sometimes shutting down feels easier than opening the floodgates. Numbness is protection, and everyone use it instead, but it also keeps out the good. Runing from self won’t make the wound heal. The more you run away from it, the more it will follow you.

Old survival tricks

The way you react today often started as a survival skill. Maybe silence kept the peace, maybe people-pleasing kept you safe. So, again, in past you got saved by using this defense mechanism.

3-How to start healing

Name what hurts you

You can’t heal what you don’t acknowledge exactly like you can’t cure the disease when you don’t know its name and issue. Start by noticing the patterns, the triggers, the guilt, the numbness, and call them what they are: wounds, not personality flaws. They don’t make you an abnormal person they are one that make you a normal human that carries emotions. Heal that wound, don’t treat and judge yourself like are doing already.

Reach Out for Support

Some wounds are too heavy to carry alone. Therapy, journaling, or even talking with someone who listens without judgment can lighten the load. Beyond that if you have a human diary, consider yourself among few lucky and rich persons in the world. But remember, world isn’t a good place, recognize them first, people won’t take time to swap their position of being best friend to enemies.

Let yourself feel it (Even If It’s messy)

Healing isn’t neat. Tears, anger, even confusion are part of it. Emotions you once buried have to be felt before they can leave. It’s okay if you get emotional every time you remember them, and you are just avoiding it and running away from it, so that people can’t find you with tears in your eyes. Cry once, but don’t cry again for the same thing again.

Learn safe trust

They were bad, doesn’t mean no one’s good. No one is bad by nature, its situations, environment and people that made them so. Not everyone will hurt you. Start small, with one safe person, one honest conversation, and true bond and let trust rebuild itself piece by piece. Don’t trust anyone, but make sure whom you trust, you trust them for sure.

Rewrite the old stories

Maybe it’s just you who are so insecure about it, you are stuck in that era that is passed, you are just stuck in that, and the voice that says you’re not enough isn’t yours. Start replacing it with a kinder and positive one, like your father, mother or someone who loves you says you. Look you are already imagining the worst, i won’t say you to stop imagine, but a little positive. This takes practice, but every small shift matters.

4-Myths about healing

Healing means forgetting

Absolutely not true. Healing doesn’t erase the past, nor it is possible, it helps you carry it differently, so it no longer controls you.

If I’m strong, I shouldn’t feel this way

Strength isn’t about pretending pain doesn’t exist and I’m so fine that nothing hurts me, I don’t need anyone. Real strength is identifying and naming it, feeling it, and still choose moving forward.

Time heals everything

Time alone doesn’t heal. What actually heals is when you face the pain and choose to work through it. Be busy, find work to invest your time and stop yourself from overthinking, I remember I read some time ago of what Ashfaq Ahmed said, there are two options after suffering, forget or get busy, forgetting isn’t in our control but being busy is.

5-A Note of Hope

These wounds don’t define you, they’re chapters of your life, not your whole story. Healing isn’t fast, and it isn’t linear, but it is possible.

The wounds you didn’t know you carried don’t have to control the life you’re building now. They can be seen, softened, and healed, one step at a time. Have a good day!