Hey beautiful human being, good to see you there, your presence here simply means you are thinking and working about yourself. So around three days ago, I was in a caffe sipping my coffee when I noticed a mother and teenage boy sitting a few tables away. Their tray sat untouched. You could feel the tension.
Mother (i don’t know her name):
“Why do you always have to argue everything? Why can’t you just listen for once?”
Son (Hassan, because she was calling him by his name):
“I am listening, Ammi. But you act like you’re always right. That what I think doesn’t matter.”
Mother :
“Because we’re your parents, Hassan. We know what’s right for you. You don’t understand life yet.”
Hassan:
“But you don’t even try to understand what I’m saying. Just because you’re right in your head doesn’t mean I’m wrong in mine.”
Mother :
“You’re too young to decide what’s right or wrong. You need to stop behaving like you know everything.”
Hassan:
“I don’t know everything. I just want to be heard without being shut down.”
She didn’t respond. She just looked away, disappointed.
He looked even more disappointed.
Not in her.
But in how little space he was given to feel understood.
They’re Not Wrong, They Just See It Differently: Dear parents, they are doing it greatly better in the way they like. Ever seen a child walking off the stairs? he walks off with so much care, moving forward each step with precautionary measure, strongly holding railings and sitting after every step to make their foot and walk balance. Now hold on, a 2 years old child walk off the stairs like this then why would a grown up individual thinks bad for themselves, its just they look at that thing and choice differently than you do. You are right doesn’t mean they are wrong, they are right too, just having different visuals
Try Seeing Through Their Eyes: Instead of being traditional parents, you guys can try to analyze their skills, understand their perspective, and point of views, maybe you will find it good too. Dear parents, every coming generation is more sensitive than that of yours, it doesn’t mean a thing that never bothered you in your days, would never bother them in their days too.
When They Are Wrong, Choose Guidance, Not Control: And yes, sometimes your child can be wrong. But here’s the thing: being wrong isn’t a crime, remember and count how many times you have made mistakes, it must be countless. It’s part of learning. And that’s where your role matters the most not as a commander, but as a guider. Instead of giving orders or throwing judgments, start a conversation with them. Ask why they chose that path, that choice. Listen — not to reply, but to understand, at least to listen. Then gently offer your wisdom as a suggestion, not as an order. Help them weigh the consequences and trust them to rethink it. Because when you treat a child with respect, even in their mistakes, they become more willing to trust your truth ,not just follow it blindly because of fear.
“Dear parent: you matter in their life not a child should forget or think bad for you, but please listen them, understand them, remembering the trauma you or a known of your had in their life passed by their parent“.